why some highly intelligent people fail to maintain good interpersonal relationships?

Mike Noone — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 16:05:59 +0000

Personally, I think it is because as children they haven’t been trained to interact with people in the proper way or to interact with people. I have personally seen where children that grows up in a special needs class even though the child is just having reading problems to grow up socially immature, but when the child was taken from the school system and put into another learning environment such as a private or home school that same child starts developing maturity, interacting with adults more, starts becoming much more mature and self confidence builds.

I think when any child begins to grow in their own peer group with other children or same peer group only, then they fail to mature and don’t develop good interpersonal relationships.

It first starts with the parents to build self confidence in their child as young as infants to toddler hood. Then as the child enters the school system the child must interact with both same age peers and adults on a daily basis (not the one or two same teachers, same cafe. worker, and the one school bus driver. ) The child must interact with many people in their daily life to develop self confidence.

As the child grows into a person they also must experience failure & humility but to be able to recover from it with a positive reinforcements.

If all the child or young adult experience is failure without personal gain from it, then they will feel no confidence in their self.

Some people stops trying to find a good job, they don’t want to continue in the school life, they become depress adults, they stop trying to achieve in life.

Older people in general must praise and say to the younger generations “that they are proud of them”.

I have actually been doing this with younger family members for years and I have seen such a positive results in the younger family members. They interact more with all peer groups, they try to achieve more in life especially in their job & school life. Their personal life becomes more successful.

It’s kind of like the movie “Pay it forward”. What we do as humans towards each other reflects on each other. When we pass matureness, responsibility, positiveness, proudness on to others then they develop positive attitudes in the areas that they need to grow in.

I know some of the words above are made up, but they should be new words.

* One piece of advice*

If the person hasn’t gained in good interpersonal relationships and they now have children, train your child in the way you want them to become. Show them how proud of them you are of them. Every next generation should be better than their own generation.

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why some highly intelligent people fail to maintain good interpersonal relationships?