Personally, I think it is because as children they haven’t been trained to interact with people in the proper way or to interact with people. I have personally seen where children that grows up in a special needs class even though the child is just having reading problems to grow up socially immature, but when the child was taken from the school system and put into another learning environment such as a private or home school that same child starts developing maturity, interacting with adults more, starts becoming much more mature and self confidence builds.
I think when any child begins to grow in their own peer group with other children or same peer group only, then they fail to mature and don’t develop good interpersonal relationships.
It first starts with the parents to build self confidence in their child as young as infants to toddler hood. Then as the child enters the school system the child must interact with both same age peers and adults on a daily basis (not the one or two same teachers, same cafe. worker, and the one school bus driver. ) The child must interact with many people in their daily life to develop self confidence.
As the child grows into a person they also must experience failure & humility but to be able to recover from it with a positive reinforcements.
If all the child or young adult experience is failure without personal gain from it, then they will feel no confidence in their self.
Some people stops trying to find a good job, they don’t want to continue in the school life, they become depress adults, they stop trying to achieve in life.
Older people in general must praise and say to the younger generations “that they are proud of them”.
I have actually been doing this with younger family members for years and I have seen such a positive results in the younger family members. They interact more with all peer groups, they try to achieve more in life especially in their job & school life. Their personal life becomes more successful.
It’s kind of like the movie “Pay it forward”. What we do as humans towards each other reflects on each other. When we pass matureness, responsibility, positiveness, proudness on to others then they develop positive attitudes in the areas that they need to grow in.
I know some of the words above are made up, but they should be new words.
* One piece of advice*
If the person hasn’t gained in good interpersonal relationships and they now have children, train your child in the way you want them to become. Show them how proud of them you are of them. Every next generation should be better than their own generation.
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I think some are simply a pessimist. They look down too much, and know a lot. They fell like the more they learn about the world and it’s ways the more ugly everything looks. They don’t believe that people in general are good. They basically just give up trying. It’s kinda an ego problem in my oppinion. They seem like they think they are better than others and have the all seeing eye.
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I dont care if this sounds stuck up, but if you have a high IQ and you deal with stupid people everyday, you start to withdraw into yourself and lose ability to socially interact.
They should find a new neighbourhood
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Experience.
Well that depends on how you define intelligence, if a person has low emotional intelligence then their relationships will suffer.
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sometimes the brain works in funny ways.
for example you can excell greatly in one area and be completely ignorant in the next.
some highly intelligent people may not have the same set of social skills as say a less educated person. (street smarts, common sense…etc)
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Some are not in control of their emotions. Just because you know something intellectually doesn’t mean you accept it emotionally.
There is a theory that there are several types of intellect. I don’t remember them all, but some are musical, math, language, and athletics. That might account for how dumb smart people can be.
I have an above average IQ, but I used to be extremely gullible. I trusted what I was told as the truth.
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Personally, I think it is because as children they haven’t been trained to interact with people in the proper way or to interact with people. I have personally seen where children that grows up in a special needs class even though the child is just having reading problems to grow up socially immature, but when the child was taken from the school system and put into another learning environment such as a private or home school that same child starts developing maturity, interacting with adults more, starts becoming much more mature and self confidence builds.
I think when any child begins to grow in their own peer group with other children or same peer group only, then they fail to mature and don’t develop good interpersonal relationships.
It first starts with the parents to build self confidence in their child as young as infants to toddler hood. Then as the child enters the school system the child must interact with both same age peers and adults on a daily basis (not the one or two same teachers, same cafe. worker, and the one school bus driver. ) The child must interact with many people in their daily life to develop self confidence.
As the child grows into a person they also must experience failure & humility but to be able to recover from it with a positive reinforcements.
If all the child or young adult experience is failure without personal gain from it, then they will feel no confidence in their self.
Some people stops trying to find a good job, they don’t want to continue in the school life, they become depress adults, they stop trying to achieve in life.
Older people in general must praise and say to the younger generations “that they are proud of them”.
I have actually been doing this with younger family members for years and I have seen such a positive results in the younger family members. They interact more with all peer groups, they try to achieve more in life especially in their job & school life. Their personal life becomes more successful.
It’s kind of like the movie “Pay it forward”. What we do as humans towards each other reflects on each other. When we pass matureness, responsibility, positiveness, proudness on to others then they develop positive attitudes in the areas that they need to grow in.
I know some of the words above are made up, but they should be new words.
* One piece of advice*
If the person hasn’t gained in good interpersonal relationships and they now have children, train your child in the way you want them to become. Show them how proud of them you are of them. Every next generation should be better than their own generation.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interpersonal_relationships
http://www.answers.com/topic/interpersonal-relationship
These aren’t my resources personally, but these resources may help you in your quest to finding the answers you need.
This isn’t necessarily true, but those who fail are either narcissists, look down at others, are do not have enough psychic space to be emotionally available to others
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